Relationships


Do you know what makes you happy? Do you know what makes your spouse happy? My husband and I attended a couples seminar yesterday, sponsored by our church. The speaker was a man named Mark Gungor.  The title of the seminar was “Laugh Your Way” to a Better Marriage and he was hilarious. My husband and I have been intentional about attending couple’s seminars whenever we can, because it keeps our relationship fresh. It is like hitting the reset button in our marriage. It is a reminder to do the things we need to do, to make our marriage happy, and not do the things that make it unhappy. Mark reminded us that if we are living a life that gives us purpose and meaning, we will be happy.  It is also important for us to know what makes our spouse happy. If we do not, we cannot be supportive of what their dreams are.  By knowing our spouse’s dreams, it gives us insight on why they do the things they do.  It may not make sense to us, but it does to them.  I always say, “Knowledge is Power” and the more we know about our spouse, the more we understand what makes them happy. Do you know what makes your spouse happy? Mark Gungor, has a “Flag Page” on his web site, www.flagpage.com, that allows you to see what you are good at and what words you need to hear from your spouse that will make you happy. There are 56 positive traits that you can choose from, that most describe who you are. It was fun to do and it was accurate on describing me. If you would like to check out Mark Gungor’s Flag Page and discover what makes you happy in your life and also your spouse’s, go to www.flagpage.com.  It will be a lot of fun. Do it together. Vickie Parker,...

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I just finished reading “Grace Intervention” by Bill Giovannetti.  I recommend it to anyone that is struggling with a relationship with God and believing His love for us is unconditional. He loved us so much that He went to “Calvary” to purchase us. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. John 15:13 NIV. God’s grace is incredible and I still struggle believing it, but  ‘Grace Intervention ‘ made it more clear to me. I was raised in a legalistic environment, where I thought God had all these rules I had to follow and if I did not, he would reject me. I could never measure up and it sucked the life and joy out of me. My relationship with God was based on fear, not love. Now I know different.  I have been set free from the bondage of performance, because God is not interested in my performance.  He loves me because of who I am, not for what I do. I cannot earn God’s love.  It is not connected to my performance.  It is a gift of unconditional love. God desires a relationship with us. He wants us to know Him as He knows us. If you have read any of my previous blogs, you know I lost my brother from pancreatic cancer in July. He had a relationship with God and it was demonstrated by the way he died. He never questioned his suffering and dying.  He knew where he was going and that gave him peace. That is what believing and accepting God’s love and grace can do. I want to live this year with a better understanding of who God is and follow Him from gratitude for what He did for me and the price He paid on Calvary to purchase me. He desires to give me life in abundance if I will embrace his love and grace. I hope you will join me in this journey of knowing God more fully. Read “Grace Intervention” to get started. I look forward to hearing from you. Vickie Parker, LMFT vickiemft.com, Online...

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